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what you’ve done as productive or non…productive rather than as good or bad。 If something is non…productive； you can focus on what you have learned from it and try another approach that might be more productive。
Over…generalizing
Another thing that might cause you not to accept yourself is over…generalizing about something you’ve done that you don’t like。 So； for example； if you fail a test you might generalize and say； “I’m really a stupid person。” When you do this you are making a statement about all of you all of the time and not just about this one situation at this time。 Instead； you might decide that your grade on this test in this subject at this time was indeed poor； and then go on to decide what you want to do about your poor grade； if anything。 Getting stuck in over…generalizing discourages you from taking steps that might allow you to do better on the next exam and builds an expectation of future failure。
學會接受自己（3）
Impossibly High Standards
Having standards that are impossibly high is a third way you can not accept yourself。 It may not e as a surprise to you that most of us are more demanding of ourselves than we are of others。 Somehow we can tolerate the fact that other people fail； that they aren’t always kind； that they’ve done things they aren’t proud of； but we have difficulty accepting those very human aspects of ourselves。 The need to be perfect is another way to set yourself up for failure and enhance the feeling that you are not acceptable。 We all make mistakes。 Accepting less than perfection simply means recognizing the limitations inherent2 in being born a human being。 Learn to value who you are rather than who you could bee。 To quote Linus； a sober and often worried character from a popular ic strip；“The world’s
